March 28, 2015 – Getting lost can happen to anyone and can be a positive or negative experience or both. You can discover new places, meet new people, try new things, and grow as a person. You can waste time and energy, end up nowhere, become so lost that you become discouraged of ever finding your way back, and relationships can be strained or lost. There are many ways a person can get lost on life’s highway.
For many months, I have been lost. I lost my way to a happy life. My pilgrimage took a wrong turn. After leaving a job I had for 16 years, losing my father (my only parent since I was 13), and fleeing a 14 year abusive marriage with nothing more than my pets – their toys – and a handful of clothes, and having my best friend die, and losing my uncle & other relatives, I REALLY GOT LOST. I did not know what direction to put my job search effort. I got buried in a tomb of grief & despair. Simply, I got lost inside myself, inside my mind, and in the world itself.
My pets kept me alive. They gave me a reason to live, to keep waking up even when I felt so lost that I could not see any sunlight. Looking into their eyes, petting my dogs & cats and caring for their welfare kept me surviving.
I guess all of the losses of the year finally came together for me in my mind & heart. For months, I tried to make new friends, try new things, but never actually made new friends and found no enjoyment in what used to give me joy. It became easier to just give up trying to be social, trying to make a life for myself. It became easier to just stay home, not go out of the house, and isolate. My pilgrimage to a happy life had come to a dead stop, or did it?
I met a friend in September 2014 who helped me realize that I am not worthless and I am capable of having the life I want if I found the strength and perseverance to go after it. I found a job that has meaning to me —- I get to work for a health program that allows people to stay in their own home instead of a nursing home. My dad could have been helped by this program had I known about it. I joined Kellers Kats, a cat only rescue group. I reconnected with an old friend, Sami & her mom. I started enjoying life again. Spending time with my pets, playing my dulcimer, and volunteering. Part of being on a pilgrimage to a happy life is finding and maintaining the self esteem and self worth to know you deserve a happy life.
I am back on the road, on Life’s Highway to the destination of a happy life. I was lost but found my way back. I am looking forward to chicken barbecues (even though I am a vegetarian – as they are fundraising events), festivals, dog walks, redecorating my house, volunteering, and enjoying life with my pets, my fur babies. I still have some recovering to do, but I am working on it.
Everyone gets lost. It is in being able to see the positives and negatives of getting lost and the journey back that helps us grow and press on to a Happy Life.